Compassionate Love Is 100X Healthier Than Passionate Love
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‘Passion’ is a scary word that no longer exist in my books. It has long been replaced with ‘Enthusiasm’.
I am no longer passionate about anything, but enthusiastic about a couple of things.
There have been numerous stories of people in love who violate their partner or each other. And the news call it crime of passion.
‘Passion’ terrifies me.
A lot of people use the word to describe how they feel about something or someone.
Over the years, I have observed that people act irrationally out of passion.
We all say we would love to marry a friend. But we do not know what friendship is really about.
The right way to approach friendship is with the intent to give.
Not necessarily at our own detriment even though that may happen every now and then.
When we truly care about someone, all we would want to do is give to them. And if the feeling is mutual, there will be a back and forth of selfless giving.
Selflessness does not suggest compromise. If a relationship is all about relentless compromise, it will only end in resentment.
The right partners brings out the best in each other.
“It is not the absence of love but the absence of friendship that makes marriage unhappy” — Friedrich Nietzsche
Do not go seeking passionate love, give and expect compassionate love. That is what you will need to build and sustain healthy and stable relationships.
